Breaking Barriers to Men’s Mental Health

Managing mental health can sometimes feel like navigating an impossible maze. This is especially true for men, who face the added pressures of societal expectations and outdated stereotypes that prevent them from seeking the support they need, often leaving them to struggle in silence. At Hanit Therapy, we are committed to untangling these barriers, challenging toxic societal norms, and shedding light on why even the most accomplished men find it difficult to reach out.

The Silent Struggle

Research consistently shows that mental health services are underutilized by men. Studies suggest that only half of men struggling with anxiety or depression will seek support. Moreover, while research indicates that 1 in 6 men experience sexual abuse (including childhood sexual abuse), these rates are likely higher because men are less likely to report or seek support. Those who do speak up often endure much longer than necessary before seeking help.

The silent struggle may effectively hide symptoms from others, but it poses significant challenges for men’s mental and physical wellbeing. When left untreated, mental health issues in men can lead to:

• Worsening symptoms
• Impaired daily functioning
• Physical health problems such as cardiovascular issues, weakened immune system, and chronic conditions
• Relationship strain
• Substance abuse
• Social isolation
• Financial consequences
• Risk of self-harm or suicide
• Poor concentration
• Reduced confidence and self-loathing
• Impeded sexual functioning and satisfaction

Men often resort to coping strategies like overworking, risk-taking, substance abuse, and, tragically, suicide. Substance use and risk-taking behaviors are frequently used to mask emotional problems. Considering that 4 out of 5 suicides are attempted by men, the impact of this silent struggle is lethal.

It’s crucial for men to recognize that they do not have to suffer in silence. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it is an act of courage and strength that can lead to relief and improved wellbeing.

Toxic Masculinity: A Hindrance to Healing

Phrases like “boys don’t cry,” “be a man,” and “tough it out” are ingrained in societies worldwide, reinforcing toxic masculinity—a set of societal expectations about how men should behave. From early childhood, men are conditioned to value stoicism and unyielding strength, which can make seeking help feel like an admission of failure.

This fear of failure prevents many men from speaking up and seeking the support they need.

Societal Pressures and Performance Expectations

High-achieving men often face immense pressure to excel in their careers, leaving little room for self-care and emotional introspection—both essential for mental wellbeing. By fostering a culture that values work-life balance, self-care, and emotional health, we can help men prioritize their mental health without sacrificing their ambitions. In fact, finding balance can further increase success and productivity.

Vulnerability and Emotional Expression

Society dictates that men should be strong, invulnerable, and devoid of emotions—especially those traditionally associated with “weakness,” such as sadness, despair, guilt, shame, and regret. This expectation hinders men from expressing their true feelings, seeking support, and embracing vulnerability and authenticity. By redefining strength to include emotional authenticity and encouraging open conversations, we can create safe spaces where men can freely express themselves.

Breaking Down Barriers: Lack of Awareness and Education

Misinformation about mental health difficulties and services poses a significant barrier to men seeking help.

• It can’t impact me… Many men don’t believe they are susceptible to mental health issues such as depression.
• They wouldn’t understand me… Men often don’t reach out for help because they don’t believe therapists can relate to their experiences.

However, your therapist doesn’t need to have lived your exact experience to help you. Just as we trust professionals like dentists and physiotherapists without knowing their personal histories, we can trust mental health professionals who are trained to provide support. There are clinicians specifically trained in addressing men’s mental health and issues such as toxic masculinity, suicidality, and sexual dysfunctions.

At Hanit Therapy, we understand the unique challenges men face and the specific needs they have in therapy. Our therapists are trained to address these issues.

Your Mental Health Matters

If you are a man or love a man, remember that mental health matters. Seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. It is time for men to break free from silence and create a new standard that allows them to experience life with vulnerability, connection, compassion, and emotional expression.

At Hanit Therapy, we are here to support you on this journey. Reach out today and take the first step towards better mental health.